Having it said, making a relationship work by itself is hard what more making a long distance relationship work...No matter how miles and even oceans in between get in the way -  long distance relationships work and do exist.  It can survive as long as you are willing to work it out.

THE HOW

Clear the parameters.  Define your relationship.  Clarify what each other means so you may see yourself gearing towards the same goal.

Communicate in some way everyday.  It may be through internet, phone or even just by devoting few minutes each day thinking of each other.  It really doesn't matter what matters is that the other knows and feels that there is someone thinking and caring for her at the end of the day.

Take advantage of the distance.  Such relationship means more time for work, friends and yourself.  Take time to think about your goals as a person and as a couple and LIVE BY IT.

Avoid temptation to be controlling.  Think and accept that times may come when you question yourself but what matters most is that you know and you realize that it's still each other in the end.

Talk about your future together.    There's nothing as satisfying as finding yourself looking forward to being together again.  Talk about your plans and give each otehr something to live up to.

THE WHY

"Because it's YOU.  No one else is worth living for than YOU.  I LOVE YOU."

         Have you heard about the best selling book of Elizabeth Gilbert’s Eat, Pray, Love. I know – a little late on     the upswing of the EPL craze, but for those of you who may be a year late, like myself, it’s a memoir about her ventures in self-discovery across the landscapes of Italy, India and Indonesia. While in India, Gilbert befriends a meaty Texan yogi who gives her the spiritual skinny on heartbreak:

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you away. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful.

This may be shocking for some because when we hear the word soulmate we tend to think about being romantic, being compatible all the way.  Well, it isn't (not at all!)!  Accepting someone as your soulmate may mean a lot of things actually - for whatever it is,if you believe or you do not what matters is that you acknowledge the fact that a part of you is incomplete without the other person whom God made for you.

The joy of being human is that we find ways to reach out to this reality and make our existence a memorable and worth while.

“We had no knowledge that our lives had just changed. You seldom sit at a crossroads and know it's a crossroads. But from the ovation forward, my life was not going to be the same.”- Alex Raffe

No matter what we say that time flies so fast and that time isn't always enough for things we want to do and yet we know that there are a lot of things that can happen in  a very short span of time.  Life is pretty much how we see it  It will be hard if we say so and easy if we want to. 

When "THE SECRET" was introduced to me about a year ago I immediately realized that I need to take things the brighter way.  There had been a lot of circle turns that happened in my life these past weeks - taking each blow --- one at a time.  I was often times pushed to react but I am taking things as they come.

I've decided to take things slow this time, take things differently.  I would have not done it if not for the inspiration I get from the people around me, people who cares for me.